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Dear Daughters: A Letter to My Younger Self This Mother’s Day

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10 Things I Wish I Knew, That I Now Know, and That I Want You to Carry with You Always

This Mother’s Day, my heart is full. Full of gratitude for my journey, full of compassion for my younger self, and full of hope for the two beautiful girls I’m raising.

As you’ve probably gathered by now from my stories, posts, and conversations (yes, I talk a lot—and repeat myself too often, lol), I am deeply committed to generational healing. Why? Because I have seen firsthand—both in my personal life and as a therapist—what happens when pain is left unspoken, when daughters grow up without emotional connection, and when wounds passed down through generations are never addressed.

In my therapy room, I’ve sat with women—brilliant, gifted, loving women—crippled by the mother wound. Some of them never heard “I love you” growing up. Others were taught to be strong but never how to be soft. Many learned to perform, to please, and to to be perfect—but not to rest, receive, or speak up.

That’s why I’m so intentional with you, my daughters.

I want you to grow up healed, whole, and wildly beautiful in your own skin. I want to leave you more than memories—I want to leave you tools.

So here’s my letter to my younger self, written now with you in mind. These are the lessons I wish I had learned earlier and that I now strive to pass on to you:

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🌸 1. Your voice matters.

Speak up. Even when it shakes. Especially when it shakes. Silence may feel safe, but it can also suffocate you.

🌸 2. Boundaries are beautiful.

No is a full sentence. You don’t owe access to everyone. Protect your peace—it’s sacred.

🌸 3. You don’t have to earn rest.

Rest is not laziness. You are not a machine. Listen to your body and give yourself permission to just be.

🌸 4. Femininity is not weakness.

There is power in softness, strength in nurture, and courage in care. Embrace your womanhood fully and freely.

🌸 5. You are allowed to feel.

All of it—joy, sadness, anger, fear. Feel it. Process it. Then choose how you’ll respond.

🌸 6. Heal before you build.

Your healing journey is the foundation of your friendships, marriages, motherhood, and career. Don’t skip this step.

🌸 7. Don’t perform for love.

You are worthy as you are. The right people won’t need you to shrink, sparkle, or hustle for their affection.

🌸 8. Know your patterns.

Learn your family history—not just the names and dates, but the emotional cycles. What hurt your grandmother might be whispering through you.

🌸 9. Sisterhood matters.

Find your circle. Protect it. Be the friend you need, and let yourself be seen and supported.

🌸 10. I am always here.

Not just as your mother, but as a woman who’s still learning, still healing, still growing. We’re in this together.

To all mothers reading this, especially those who are navigating motherhood with intention—you are doing sacred work.

And to all daughters—know that you are not responsible for the pain that shaped you, but you are responsible for your healing. And healing is not betrayal—it’s love.

As I watch my mother now as a grandmother, I reflect on how far we’ve come as women and as a family. And I whisper a prayer that I, too, will live long enough to see my daughters as mothers—loving, whole, and free.

Happy Mother’s Day.

With all my heart,
A Mother, A Daughter, A Therapist
And a believer in the healing power of love.

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