Yesterday, I attended the most beautiful wedding—a true testament that love is not a scam. 💕 Watching two people deeply in love, surrounded by warmth, joy, and celebration, truly warmed my heart.
As Valentine’s Day came and went, I know this season stirs up a whirlwind of emotions, especially for those who feel left out. Social media is flooded with grand gestures—bouquets, candlelit dinners, romantic getaways—and if you’re not on the receiving end, it’s easy to feel envious, wondering, “Why not me?”
I love love. đź’– And today, I want to address something deeper than just flowers and chocolates. I want us to pause and ask ourselves some serious questions about love, relationships, and self-worth.
The Father-Daughter Dance: A Lesson on a Woman’s Worth
At the wedding I attended, there was a particularly tear-jerking moment. The bride’s father had been ill and hospitalized just days before the wedding. The family was unsure whether he would make it to walk her down the aisle. But he did. And there was one thing the bride deeply longed for—a father-daughter dance.
As they swayed to the music, tears filled the room. It was a powerful moment, not just because of the love between a father and his daughter, but because of what it symbolized. A father teaches a daughter her worth.
A father is a girl’s first mirror. Through him, she learns:
🌷 Her value—Is she precious and worth protecting?
🌷 Her femininity—Is it something to be cherished or dismissed?
🌷 Her expectations in love—Does she deserve to be loved, respected, and chosen?
A woman who grows up knowing her worth will not settle for less.
Questions Every Woman Should Ask Herself
Before you find yourself **salivating over Valentine’s gifts, chasing love, or worse—settling for a situationship—**let’s take a deep dive.
Grab a journal and reflect on these questions:
1. Your Mother and Femininity
- Was your mother comfortable in her femininity?
- How would you describe her as a woman?
- What did she teach you—intentionally or unintentionally—about being a woman?
2. Your Father and the Value of a Woman
- What did your father value about women?
- How did he treat your mother?
- What did you learn from him about how a man should treat a woman?
- Did he delight in you as his daughter in an honourable and appropriate way?
3. Your Childhood and Self-Worth
- Did you grow up knowing to the core of your being that you were loved, special, worth protecting, and wanted?
- Was there a defining wound you received from your father or mother that shaped your view of love?
- If so, what happened, and how has it impacted your relationships today?
Healing and Moving Forward
If answering these questions stirred something in you, that’s a sign to dig deeper. The way we experience love today—whether in friendships, dating, or marriage—has deep roots in our past.
✔️ If you grew up knowing your worth, that’s a beautiful gift. Keep honoring it.
✔️ If you struggled with self-worth, healing is possible. Awareness is the first step.
✔️ If you grew up in dysfunction, you can rewrite your love story by making intentional choices in relationships.
This Valentine’s season, let’s focus on the love within. Because before we crave roses and romance, we must first love, honor, and heal ourselves. 💗
Final Thought
The wedding I attended reminded me that real love exists. But before we fixate on relationships, we must first understand our own relationship with love.
✨ Love starts with you.
✨ Your self-worth dictates the kind of love you accept.
✨ You are worthy of a love that reflects your true value.
So before you chase the flowers, chocolates and getaways, ask yourself: Do I know my worth? 🌸
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