“Hi, my cousin. Niko na kiulizo… how do you manage to do all these things in life?”

This heartfelt question from my cousin made me pause and reflect. As a multi-passionate working mother, my life often feels like a dynamic circus act. I’m the performer juggling countless balls—motherhood, career, passions, friendships, family, self-care, and even the elusive concept of overall sanity—all while trying not to let anything crash to the ground.

The truth? I don’t have a magic formula, but I’ve learned that the key to “managing it all” lies in understanding that not all the balls are equal. Some balls are hard and fragile, and others are soft and can bounce back if dropped. Knowing which is which has become my survival strategy.

The Hard Balls: What Must Never Drop

These are the priorities that, if neglected, would deeply impact the foundation of my life. For me, they include:

1. My Relationship with God:
   This is my anchor. Prayer, devotion, and reflection ground me, offering the peace and direction I need to handle the complexities of life.
2. My Relationship with Myself:
   Self-care is non-negotiable. If I neglect my mental, emotional, or physical health, I lose the ability to give my best to others.
3. My Children:
   My daughters are my heart and my legacy. Whether it’s helping them with schoolwork, sharing bedtime stories, or having heartfelt conversations, being present for them is a commitment I uphold.
4. My Career:
   As a career woman, my work fuels my passions, provides for my family, and contributes to a greater purpose. It requires intention, discipline, and focus.

These hard balls are not just priorities—they are my core. Dropping them is not an option, so I guard them fiercely.

The Soft Balls: What Can Bounce Back

The softballs represent the other aspects of my life that, while important, have more flexibility. They include:

• Extended family relationships
• Friendships
• Fun activities
• Hobbies

I’ve learned to approach these with grace and adaptability:

• Plan and Prioritize: I schedule time for these relationships and activities, but I don’t stress if plans shift.
• Communicate Clearly: If I can’t attend an event or meet someone, I let them know early and find alternative ways to stay connected.
• Be Present When Possible: Whether it’s a quick phone call, a heartfelt text, or a planned hangout, I make the moments count.

The Circus Act: How It All Comes Together

Here’s how I navigate the balancing act:

Motherhood

I’ve realized I don’t have to be a perfect mom to be a present one. I involve my kids in my daily life—whether it’s baking together, doing chores as a team, or simply talking about their day. These moments create bonds and ease the pressure of “doing it all.”

Career and Passions

As a magistrate, therapist, writer, and more, I’ve learned to blend my passions with my work. I channel life’s lessons into creative outlets and professional growth. I also set boundaries to ensure I’m not overextending myself.

Self-Care and Sanity

I lean on my routines:

• Exercise keeps me grounded and energized.
• Prayer and journaling help me process my emotions and find clarity.
• Mindfulness ensures I stay present, even on the busiest days.

Friendships and Fun

Sometimes, life is about embracing the small joys—laughing over coffee with a friend, dancing in the living room with my daughters, or catching up with family. These moments recharge my soul.

Lessons I’ve Learned Along the Way

1. Perfection is a Myth: I don’t have to do everything, and neither do you. Prioritization is key.
2. Boundaries are Essential: Knowing when to say no allows me to say yes to what truly matters.
3. Grace is Everything: Some days, I drop a ball or two—and that’s okay. Life is a journey, not a performance.

My Secret Sauce

The reason I can “manage it all” is simple: I’ve learned to let the soft balls bounce while always catching the hard ones. Life is a delicate balance, and knowing what truly matters helps me stay grounded amidst the chaos.

To my cousin—and anyone else wondering how to navigate the circus of life—this is my answer. It’s not about doing it all; it’s about doing what matters most.

How do you juggle your own life’s circus? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

#WorkingMomLife #MultiPassionateLiving #GracefulBalance #FaithAndFamily #JugglingAct #PrioritiesMatter

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